let me put it another way

let's say you now find yourself looking for your true love.
because your on the lookout for true love, do you become aggressive towards someone you happen to be attracted to instead of letting things happen naturally?
now the situation happens to get a little more complicated because now a friend is involved with this same individual only you both don't know about the other person.

you meet this person for the first time,
start to chat, flirt a little to let him know your interested
only he is being extremely nice to you.
he likes you because your easy to talk to or perhaps you can make each other laugh.
so you can feel sometime beginning to happen but he is not moving along the same lines as you are, so you either begin to wonder if he is even interested in you in the same way you are in him or you figure that by trying to show him your interested in him you begin to become more seductive.
mean while;
you begin to talk to your friend and she's been in a pretty good mood and you know it's because she told you that she met someone and he's flirting with her, so your glad to know that she is feeling good about herself again and happy for her that she is interested in pursuing this relationship.
so you begin to tell her of this person you met and how he makes you feel and hope something happens soon because your not sure if he likes you the way you like him, and she's just as happy for you as you were for her.

(now you and your friend run in two different circles of experiences)

so one night you and your friend decide to go out because you've only talked to each in email's, or by telephone and you both haven't seen each other in awhile. you both figure this will be a nice time because you both have possible love interest and getting together would be fun.

only in reality: only one of you is further along in the relationship than the other.

so your both having a good time catching up and comparing stories about your love interest.
you tell your friend how frustrated you are because even though you both have a good time together he still hasn't made a move.
your friend begins telling you about this person when they show up at the same place and all three of you are a little surprised that you all seem to know each other.
now this individual hasn't expressed his feelings to either one of you.

what happens next determines whether or not you move on or begin to build karma.

you begin to notice how this individual is interested more in your friend and what you were feeling was mis-intepurtated but then you begin to get feelings of jealousy. you wonder what he see's in her, and how dare he chose her over you afterall your better looking than her.

so now your friend is in your mind becoming a threat to your heart.
but in your's friends mind she would rather keep the peace between you and her but in the same breathe she's not about to give up a good thing if it's meant to be.
and to both of you you blame each other for getting in the way.

what happens next will determine whether you move on, or begin to build karma.